My name is Jenny.
I have tried to put this behind me many times, but every time I think I have, a woman contacts me to reminds me how he hurt me and is hurting them. The hurt in the women's voices is heartbreaking. I cant believe he keeps doing this and gets away with it.
This needs to end. Here is my story.
I was a single mother of two. I was alone for 4 years desperately searching for love. Since it was so hard to get out and meet people, I started online dating.
It all started when I saw his profile and sent him a message. We exchanged conversation for a few days and then he disappeared. He told me he was in the Marines and he was going overseas often but didn't warn me he was going away right then.
Our conversations were so fun and romantic, different than what I had experienced before so I kept waiting for him to appear again.
Then one day he was online, his location had changed and I inquired about it. He told me he was relocated by the Military. He would now be around NJ and he wanted to see me. We started talking everyday for hours. He would make me smile. He always knew the right things to say. I couldn't talk to him enough.
Our first date as so romantic. from the moment we first saw each other...the big hug he gave me...to his smile. We met in downtown Freehold, NJ. It is a cute little place that I had not experienced before. He took me to an Italian restaurant, this was my first real date in my life. It was BYOB so he left to run to get wine.
I felt so special. The night ended with the biggest hug and a nice long kiss. I was so in love.
After we met I started to drive to see him 3 times a week. It was about 45 minute drive one-way. He lived in an extended stay, with a full kitchen.
We would go out to dinner at different restaurants, introducing me to different foods. He also loved going to diners, so we would try different diners. All of the dates wonderful and romantic.
This went on for a few months and then I introduced him to my children. They started coming with me one day a week - I was driving about 4 hours on those days. I didn't care, I was in love.
He always paid for dates which I thought was wonderful.
One day he told me he found out he had a cancerous brain tumor and was going to die. He told me it wasn't fair for him to continue to see me and he would understand if I didn't want to anymore. But I loved him and wouldn't think of leaving.
One day he tells me he is getting relocated to NC and could get treatment there for his cancer. I was so in love that after he moved, I drove there 3 weekends out of the month. Then we decided it would be good for me to move to NC. My kids were at their dads for the summer so I packed up all my belonging to move.
At this point my family and friends thought I was nuts. They all didn't believe what he was telling me, but because I was so in love I didn't listen. I was needed a change - I was at a company that I was ready to leave, anyway. I also was taking out my 401k so I would have money. I moved to North Carolina the weekend of July 4th.
I was so excited because this was all new and exciting. I was traveling with my daughters guinea pig. I couldn't leave without it. Tom did not like it and actually moved us to another extended stay hotel and paid for room for the guinea pig by itself. I thought it was crazy, but said if he wants to pay for it, oh well. The new place was much nicer. We would go out to eat many times and sit by the pool and the hot tub. It was like a long honeymoon.
This was my start of our life together.
Tuesday, February 3, 2015
Tom, the Brain Tumor Cancer Patient (minus the brain tumor and cancer)
With Both Jenny and Julia, Tom pretended to be fighting with a brain tumor. They will share their individual stories soon, but the gist is that not long after meeting him, he told them he couldn't date them anymore because he only had months to live. Knowing most women wouldn't turn their backs on someone they love, this worked well to get the women to devote themselves to him.
With Jenny, he got her to cash in her 401k and go to North Carolina for a month for 'treatment." He would disappear all day, not letting her join him at the doctors appointments ever. She would take care of him while he was ill and prepared her children for his ultimate death. Their relationship ended once she realized he was lying about this...which you will be able to read when she writes that part of her story.
With Sarah, whom he started dating as soon as he ended it with Penny, he told her a few months later that he was sick in a similar way to Penny. He moved her to NJ, leaving a job and her family behind to go take care of him and be near his family during his 'final days." He ended his job (you can see his resignation letter below) to spend his final days with her and Sarah even through a party for him to say goodbye to his coworkers, too. Those pictures are posted below, as well. Julia ended it with him much the same way as Jenny which she will share in her story.
With Jenny, he got her to cash in her 401k and go to North Carolina for a month for 'treatment." He would disappear all day, not letting her join him at the doctors appointments ever. She would take care of him while he was ill and prepared her children for his ultimate death. Their relationship ended once she realized he was lying about this...which you will be able to read when she writes that part of her story.
With Sarah, whom he started dating as soon as he ended it with Penny, he told her a few months later that he was sick in a similar way to Penny. He moved her to NJ, leaving a job and her family behind to go take care of him and be near his family during his 'final days." He ended his job (you can see his resignation letter below) to spend his final days with her and Sarah even through a party for him to say goodbye to his coworkers, too. Those pictures are posted below, as well. Julia ended it with him much the same way as Jenny which she will share in her story.
Tom, the Psychologist, Therapist, Parenting Expert, Grief Counselor, Behavior Specialist
When Tom meets most anyone he will tell them he is a Forensic psychologist. He may also say that he is one but works for the military as a counter terrorism expert or interrogator. He told one person he worked for the Critical Incidence Response Group, which is a sect of the FBI.
He claims to have gone to school at Auburn for undergrad, in Manhattan for grad school and did his fellowship at John Hopkins. He also claims to have played college sports for Auburn.
He claims to have done a lot of seminars and public speaking. He mentions seminars he did with his best friend who is black and an ex-navy seal.
His family states he has never gone to college. The women that have seen his degree think it is fake, one says it came from an online school that isn't real.
Below are a couple of his seminars he advertised:
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He claims to have gone to school at Auburn for undergrad, in Manhattan for grad school and did his fellowship at John Hopkins. He also claims to have played college sports for Auburn.
He claims to have done a lot of seminars and public speaking. He mentions seminars he did with his best friend who is black and an ex-navy seal.
His family states he has never gone to college. The women that have seen his degree think it is fake, one says it came from an online school that isn't real.
Below are a couple of his seminars he advertised:
Tom, the Marine, Special Ops Marine/Reservist
All of have been told that he is a Marine. He even has a tattoo that has his battalion number on it (3rd ofr 4th), but it isn't a real battalion.
We have been told he is in special ops and has a secret job as a counter-terrorism operative or consultant. This explains his secretiveness, use of different names and social security numbers, frequent phone changes (altho the number stays the same) and ABSENCES.
Any time he leaves you, it will be for some noble cause where he is doing some heroic feat so you wont feel you can argue with it. Or you feel selfish arguing with it. He will give you enough details on what he's doing to make it sound realistic but he will be vague about other things.
He will promise you will get to meet the men in his group, his CO, how they all know about you because they see him smiling all the time but that is all a lie, because they don't exist. He talks about Fort Dix, Quantico and a coast guard base on Staten Island. He also has said he was getting a silver star and will invite you to be at the ceremony. He claims to be the team leader of his unit but have zero control over anything in his life and schedule bc the military rules it all, which is why he can't come home and see you.
He claims he has had tours in Iraq and Afghanastan and that he had an IED explode near him. He will claim he was severely injured, transferred to a hospital in Germany and and his family came because they weren't sure he would make it.
He claims he gets to cover with his unit all sorts of famous venues to protect the public from terrorism. Things like the Super Bowl, the Democratic National Convention, Macy's day Parade, etc.
He will have fairly routine times he texts and calls and will let you know in the morning when you will get your phone call...you know, because he has a long list of women he has to call that day. Take a number.
On the weekend, the communication pattern may change and he may claim he pulled an all-nighter and will need to change the time of the call.
He is not a fan of the president, can feel anti-government at times, yet patriotic as a "Marine" and military man. He hates the way the military is treated, claims they love their weapons more than their soldiers and vows to change it.
He claims to be writing a cirriculum for the military about profiling "lone wolfs" and talked about them before they were in the news all the time. He claimed to go and interview the man who beheaded his coworkers in Ohio. He also claims to be helping build a database for intelligence sources for catching lone wolves.
He claims he was in the first graduating class of MARSOC in 2006. This is the same time he was with Penny having a fake "brain tumor" and not working at all.
He is a big muscular guy, with a little bit of a stomach for someone who works out all of the time, is in special ops and eats like a health fanatic like he says.
From what some of the women have been told by his family, Tom was never in the service at all. They were told that Tom wanted to be a Marine but they wouldn't take him because of a vaccine injury he had as a child that caused kidney damage. Some of the women feel he just never got over this and it explains some of his behavior.
We have been told he is in special ops and has a secret job as a counter-terrorism operative or consultant. This explains his secretiveness, use of different names and social security numbers, frequent phone changes (altho the number stays the same) and ABSENCES.
Any time he leaves you, it will be for some noble cause where he is doing some heroic feat so you wont feel you can argue with it. Or you feel selfish arguing with it. He will give you enough details on what he's doing to make it sound realistic but he will be vague about other things.
He will promise you will get to meet the men in his group, his CO, how they all know about you because they see him smiling all the time but that is all a lie, because they don't exist. He talks about Fort Dix, Quantico and a coast guard base on Staten Island. He also has said he was getting a silver star and will invite you to be at the ceremony. He claims to be the team leader of his unit but have zero control over anything in his life and schedule bc the military rules it all, which is why he can't come home and see you.
He claims he has had tours in Iraq and Afghanastan and that he had an IED explode near him. He will claim he was severely injured, transferred to a hospital in Germany and and his family came because they weren't sure he would make it.
He claims he gets to cover with his unit all sorts of famous venues to protect the public from terrorism. Things like the Super Bowl, the Democratic National Convention, Macy's day Parade, etc.
He will have fairly routine times he texts and calls and will let you know in the morning when you will get your phone call...you know, because he has a long list of women he has to call that day. Take a number.
On the weekend, the communication pattern may change and he may claim he pulled an all-nighter and will need to change the time of the call.
He is not a fan of the president, can feel anti-government at times, yet patriotic as a "Marine" and military man. He hates the way the military is treated, claims they love their weapons more than their soldiers and vows to change it.
He claims to be writing a cirriculum for the military about profiling "lone wolfs" and talked about them before they were in the news all the time. He claimed to go and interview the man who beheaded his coworkers in Ohio. He also claims to be helping build a database for intelligence sources for catching lone wolves.
He claims he was in the first graduating class of MARSOC in 2006. This is the same time he was with Penny having a fake "brain tumor" and not working at all.
He is a big muscular guy, with a little bit of a stomach for someone who works out all of the time, is in special ops and eats like a health fanatic like he says.
From what some of the women have been told by his family, Tom was never in the service at all. They were told that Tom wanted to be a Marine but they wouldn't take him because of a vaccine injury he had as a child that caused kidney damage. Some of the women feel he just never got over this and it explains some of his behavior.
The Realization Timeline
Hello...If you have found this blog, I am truly sorry because it likely means someone you love, or you yourself have had some induction into the web of lies that Tom Guida/Gatto has brought to your life. This blog is written and maintained by a host of women who have fallen prey to this man and are working together to make sure that it doesn't happen to someone else. We know he is still on the prowl, as well as, maintaining other long-term relationships he is in simultaneously with others. He is currently married to at least THREE women, possibly four that we know of. He will marry you but he wont divorce you!
Most of us are using pseudonyms, but our stories are very real. If you find yourself one of his victims and want to talk to us, please email us at TGExposeGroup@gmail.com.
Here is the timeline we put together at the first of February 2015. We will add to it as we get better information.
TIMELINE:
1980s Married to Dee in Maryland (may have divorced this one)
2003-2004 Met and spent time with Jen in NJ
????-Married "the Gypsy" in New Orleans she disappeared (this info is from Tom's sister)
2005-Met Jenny in NJ
2006-Married Jenny in March
2009-Jenny said goodbye to him in March, never able to divorce him.
2009-April, Met Julia in NC
2009-Dec, Julia ended it.
2009-Dec, resurfaced with Jen in NJ
2010-Jan/Feb, Met Amber in NJ
2011-July, Married Amber
2011-Nov met Kristin in NC
2012-May, Kristin last saw or heard from Tom
2012-Dec, Jen ended it
2014-Mar, Met Deb
2014-Nov, Deb ended it
He was also married to a friend of his sisters' and we believe they are still married. This means he is still married to her, the gypsy, Jenny and Amber. He was engaged to both Jen and Sarah.
Most of us are using pseudonyms, but our stories are very real. If you find yourself one of his victims and want to talk to us, please email us at TGExposeGroup@gmail.com.
Here is the timeline we put together at the first of February 2015. We will add to it as we get better information.
TIMELINE:
1980s Married to Dee in Maryland (may have divorced this one)
2003-2004 Met and spent time with Jen in NJ
????-Married "the Gypsy" in New Orleans she disappeared (this info is from Tom's sister)
2005-Met Jenny in NJ
2006-Married Jenny in March
2009-Jenny said goodbye to him in March, never able to divorce him.
2009-April, Met Julia in NC
2009-Dec, Julia ended it.
2009-Dec, resurfaced with Jen in NJ
2010-Jan/Feb, Met Amber in NJ
2011-July, Married Amber
2011-Nov met Kristin in NC
2012-May, Kristin last saw or heard from Tom
2012-Dec, Jen ended it
2014-Mar, Met Deb
2014-Nov, Deb ended it
He was also married to a friend of his sisters' and we believe they are still married. This means he is still married to her, the gypsy, Jenny and Amber. He was engaged to both Jen and Sarah.
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